The Courage Myth: Why Going Solo Keeps You Stuck
Here's the biggest myth about courage: that brave people do it alone.
Hollywood lied to us. Every hero has a mentor, allies, and a community cheering them on.
Yet somehow we've convinced ourselves that asking for help is weakness, that needing support means we're not ready, that true courage is a solo act.
I've coached hundreds of professionals through major transitions, and here's what I've learned:
Courage is 20% individual willpower, 30% clear vision, and 50% having the right people in your corner.
The courage community you need:
1. The Believer (The person who sees your potential when you can't)
This is the person who says "You should totally do that" when everyone else says "Are you sure?"
They remind you of your strengths during moments of doubt
Every successful transition I've made had one of these people
2. The Guide (The person who's walked the path before you)
They share practical wisdom, not just encouragement
They help you avoid pitfalls they've already navigated
They normalize the struggle because they've been there
3. The Challenger (The person who pushes you forward)
They ask the hard questions you're avoiding
They call you out when you're playing small
They love you enough to make you uncomfortable
4. The Witness (The person who celebrates your progress)
They notice your growth when you can't see it
They celebrate small wins along the way
They remind you how far you've come
The trap most people fall into: Trying to be all of these for themselves.
The breakthrough insight: You don't need to be everything. You need to build the right team.
Your network isn't about who you know. It's about who knows you well enough to invest in your success.
Action steps to build your courage community:
Audit your current circle: Who fills these roles now?
Identify the gaps: Which role is missing or weak?
Start with gratitude: Thank the people already in your corner
Be intentional: Seek out relationships that fill the missing roles
Reciprocate: Be these roles for others in their journey
The most successful people aren't those who needed the least help. They're those who were best at building and leveraging their courage community.
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