High-performing teams don’t move faster because they have more confidence—they move faster because they’ve learned to trust something deeper. After working with hundreds of leadership teams, I’ve seen that the real differentiator between teams stuck in analysis paralysis and those making bold, timely moves isn’t data, certainty, or buy-in. It comes down to asking a single question that unlocks momentum almost instantly—a question I reveal (along with the full framework) in this week’s issue of The Activated Leader newsletter.

This comprehensive guide explores why embracing uncertainty, rather than avoiding it—is the key to executive success in the 21st century.

For years, I believed saying ‘I don’t have time’ was a shield, when in reality, it was a cage. The moment I replaced those words with choice-based language, everything changed: my leadership, my team’s performance, and my sense of control.

I walked into what I thought was a routine team meeting at Oracle—twenty minutes later, I was questioning everything I thought I knew about leadership. Picture this: you’re presenting your carefully planned Q3 strategy to your global sales team, and your most experienced rep interrupts: “Lilah, can I be honest? This isn’t working.” The room goes silent. In that moment, you have two choices: defend your position or do something that feels completely counterintuitive. I closed my laptop, and what happened in the next hour taught me more about leadership than any MBA course ever could.

When a sudden visa loss threatened to derail Shwetha’s “perfect” life, she discovered she wasn’t losing her career, she was shedding an outdated version of herself. This post reveals why success can feel harder than failure and how the in-between can become your greatest growth stage.

I was sitting in a parking lot in a borrowed suit with just $36 in my bank account, about to walk into the most important interview of my life. No degree. No connections. No backup plan.
What happened next didn’t just land me a job at Microsoft, it rewired the way I make decisions, coach leaders, and take action when the stakes are high.

Most leaders aren’t stuck because they lack skill—they’re stuck because they’re solving the wrong problem. The real issue is often invisible, hiding beneath layers of logic and experience. Clarity comes when you stop trying to be right and start asking what you might be missing.

Stop calling it "starting over." Learn to leverage every restart as a strategic advantage, just like the world's most successful leaders. Unlock your hidden superpower and turn transitions into transformations.

Everyone talks about frameworks that work in your career or in solving a problem, but nobody mentions what happens when you have to live them in real life.

Every hero's journey you've ever seen has one thing in common. It's not what you think.

The difference between being stuck and being scared isn't what you think. Here's how to tell—and what to do about it.

The most successful people I know are terrible at predicting their future. But they're incredible at navigating toward it.

Every hero's journey you've ever seen has one thing in common. It's not what you think.

The biggest lie about leadership isn't about what you need to know. It's about what you need to hide.

The hardest part of any journey isn't the destination. It's deciding what to leave behind.

There's a space between who you were and who you're becoming. Anthropologists call this "liminal space," the threshold between identities where transformation occurs. In leadership journeys, these liminal periods are both profoundly challenging and incredibly fertile.

"Just speak up more in meetings. This well-intentioned but oversimplified advice ignores a fundamental truth: finding your leadership voice isn't about volume or frequency. It's about authenticity, clarity, and impact.

Have you ever reached a destination only to wonder if you entered the wrong address?

We pack meticulously for business trips – laptops, chargers, presentation materials. But the most crucial item isn't physical. It's courage.

You've felt it before. That mental fog that settles in around 3 PM when you've already made 300 decisions since breakfast. Your brain feels like it's wading through quicksand, and suddenly choosing between "reply" or "reply all" feels monumental.