Why Going Solo is Keeping You Stuck (And How to Navigate with Community)
I was coaching a brilliant VP who'd been "thinking about making a change" for three years.
Three years of reading books, listening to podcasts, and journaling about her next move.
Zero years of actually moving.
When I asked what was holding her back, she said: "I keep waiting to feel confident enough to do it alone."
Here's what I told her: Confident people don't go it alone. They build navigation communities.
The solo myth that's keeping you stuck:
We've been sold this story that real transformation happens in isolation. That asking for help means you're not ready. That true courage is a solo act.
But every meaningful change I've witnessed - in my life and my clients' lives - happened in community.
Why solo navigation fails:
1. You can't see your own blind spots When you're in the middle of uncertainty, you lose perspective. Community provides the outside view you can't give yourself.
2. Motivation is renewable, but only with witnesses Reading about courage vs. practicing courage with people who believe in you = completely different experiences.
3. Your fears feel bigger in isolation The challenges that feel overwhelming alone become manageable when shared with people who've been there.
4. You need diverse navigation skills No one person has all the tools. Community gives you access to different approaches, experiences, and solutions.
The community navigation framework:
The Believer - Sees your potential when you can't
The Guide - Has walked the path before you
The Challenger - Pushes you forward when you're playing small
The Witness - Celebrates progress and holds you accountable
Why I created "Navigate Your Next Chapter":
After 500+ newsletter subscribers asked for more than weekly tips, I realized something important:
People don't need more information about transitions. They need community support while making them.
This isn't another course you do alone. It's 8 weeks of navigation with 20 ambitious professionals who understand that:
Real transitions are messy and non-linear
Courage comes in different forms for different people
You need practical tools AND emotional support
Community accelerates change in ways solo work never can
If you're ready to stop navigating alone:
Because your biggest transitions don't have to be your loneliest.
Share about a time when community support helped you through a major change. What would have been different if you'd tried to do it alone?
